Husbands - What Your Wife Wants You To Know About Sex

It's about time! We finally got to the big SEX talk with our Marriage Accountability/Mentoring Group. To be honest, we were really excited about our curriculum for the session entitled "Heat Up: Physical Intimacy" but we were also really scared. Who are we to teach on this topic? Well, we decided to let the group teach each other. More specifically, we decided to let the husbands teach the wives, and the wives teach the husbands.

After some initial discussion on God's view of sex (which, by the way, we discovered that God is very much in favor of it since he created it - just read Song of Solomon), we decided to divide the husbands and wives of the group. The husbands were to create a "Top 10 List" of things they want to tell their wives about sex, and the wives were to do the same. There were really no other instructions other than that. It was a chance for each group to agree on some things that they really want the other spouse to understand about sex. We thought it would be great to hear it from others, rather than always hearing from only our spouse. We were right! It was eye opening and challenging to say the least.

For this blog we want to share the "Top 10 List" from the wives. Husbands, take note! This might be the 10 things your wife has always wanted to tell you, but didn't know how to tell you. Or, maybe, this might be the 10 things she has been telling you, but you didn't believe her. Now you can believe her because others think like her! Or, our group has 4 really odd ladies that nobody else thinks like. We don't really think that is the case, though!

So, here is the list in the words of the wives:

1. We do not like to initiate sex. It makes us feel "slutty."
2. We want to be pursued, to feel wanted, and to feel "hot" by our husbands.
3. We don't want to have to ask for help around the house, or to have to ask you to touch us in non-sexual ways.
4. Do not let us say "no" or we are "too tired." Make us feel irresistible.
5. We like short foreplay.
6. We like to be pursued all day without an end goal in mind.
7. The ultimate goal does not have to be the big "O" for us (that would be orgasm).
8. Pray with us.
9. Communicate with us during the day.
10. Constantly pursue our heart rather than our body.

Good to know, huh? Give us some time and we will post the "Top 10 List" from the husbands!

Rusty and Heather